What To Do When a Guy Gets Ghost on You

Casper the friendly ghost prick

This post was inspired by a Cosmopolitan article I read from the February 2012 issue. I am a former magazine hoarder who likes to go back and reread sporadically. Thats another issue though.

The article I was interested in was entitled: What to Do When a Guy Ghosts. Although the phrasing of the title is bad IMO (the phrase is to "get ghost"... or maybe thats just hood slang.lol), I wanted to know what the "experts" opinions were on what to do when a guy you're feeling disappears out of nowhere.

The advice given was that if he disappears suddenly after a few presumably good dates, then there may be some reasons why. He may be extremely busy at work, or he may be under the impression that you are not into him. They said  you should text him to see if he is busy or needs encouragement (not sure what that part means) and  if he doesnt respond enthusiastically within a 24 hour time period, then you should delete his info and keep it moving, finishing with this line: "Never put in more than you're getting in the beginning."

I usually dont agree with the advice I find in magazines, but for this one I do. I am not the only one who've talked to someone and was really starting to feel them and POOF, they disappeared. Whether  it was me, or them or whatever, they disappeared. The question after that was always where to go from there? Do you just delete everything and pretend they never existed? Do you speak if you see them out? Are you being too extreme by deleting without knowing the full story? Do you wait and keep them in your contacts "just in case" one day they realize your awesomeness? Those were always my questions.

Cosmo is absolutely right about never putting in more than you're getting in the beginning. If you are the one calling, setting dates, planning, texting first...then you may want to reeavaluate if this is the type of person you want in your life. Also, you have to consider that he just might not be that into you (I know the ego hates that though). Every relationship should be mutually beneficial in my opinion. So Im encouraging myself and other to let the Non Factors go. Delete.Delete.Delete.

If he wants to get Ghost, then good, he's just making room for someone who would love to stay around :)

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#thatawkwardsinglemoment

As a single gal, there are countless moments that are straight up awkward...so I decided to start randomly posting those oh so cringeworthy things. I know they dont just happen to me!

Today's Awkward moment:

That awkward moment when you STILL are following someone you stopped talking to...but dont want to be rude and unfollow... but dont want to see what they're tweeting/instagram'ing... but still do want to see it just to be nosy. #awkward

 

 

Have another #awkwardsinglemoment ? Leave a comment below!

 



Single During Cold Seasons? To Wax or Not to Wax?

Sorry about this graphic image.lol. Actually Im cracking up

 

 



This is a gross post. But I am willing to conquer even the most private, sometimes embarrassing aspects of being a single female. Soooooo here we go. It is Fall, the weather is cooling down, we are starting to put our clothes back on, no more cook outs or pool parties...sooooo...yeah this is awkward. Single ladies, are we or arent we, ummmm waxing/shaving/nairing  "down there" during the cold and lonely seasons?

I'll be the first to admit, that I do tend to be more lax on shaving my legs when it gets cold ESPECIALLY if Im not seeing anyone. I still do underarms though. As far as waxing, I enjoy the results BUT since only Im seeing it right now, I probably (most likely will) still get them but wait longer times in between.

It's so easy to be lazy when technically anything that's covered up and will not be seen basically doesnt exist to anyone but you. However, I think it just feels sexy and clean when you're bare down there. Like a sexy little secret, and the good thing is "just in case" something happens, you're prepared and not having to turn down a steamy moment just because of the jungle.lol. Of course, whatever floats your boat is the way to go!



So ladies, Do you do "The Bush"  or "Mr Miyagi" when it's cold and you dont have a boo thang?
 Be honest!!!

Yay or Nay: The Snuggie Sutra

In WTF let's write a book about anything news, there is a book out there entitled "The Snuggie Sutra." It's obviously a derived from the  popular sex guide Karma Sutra but only with Snuggies!  The idea makes me literally lol. Check out a few images from the book, so you can know all the ways to get down with a snuggie on. This is not a review, as I've not read it...just thought it was interesting. If anyone has read it, leave a comment below.lol


Here are a few graphics from the book:

Bet you wanna go out and get a snuggie huh? 

To end this post, this is probably a good gag gift to give or one to buy if you like little conversation piece books on your coffee table. It's good to have things around that are just for fun.

But seriously, are you gonna try one? I know I have my snuggie ready to go.lol (j/k)

Is Your E-Life Ruining Your Love Life?

Twitter. Facebook. Instagram. It's a rarity to meet someone who hasnt joined at least one of these social networking sites, as a lot of people are connected to all three. With the whole e-world connected at your fingertips, it's very very easy to overshare if you are not careful.

Is sharing your every thought, idea, action and picture necessarily good for budding relationship? I say no. I've been guilty of overshare, probably about when I first joined twitter. I literally tweeted all day about any and everything because I thought that was the purpose. That was years ago, and although Im not sure who I was dating at the moment, if they ever wanted to know ANYTHING about what I thought about them or anything, all they had to do was check my timeline. And THAT can kill a budding relationship.

The Five Languages of Love You Need to Know NOW.

After a short, pleasant flight from Atlanta to Miami I indulged in a book I got from a good friend of mines called "The Five Love Languages" by best selling marriage counselor Gary Chapman. Although it was an interesting read, I dont necessarily recommend it because it was written for married couples. However the information is useful even in dating situations, and in this post I will have basically concluded all the info you need to know without all the stories in the book.

 5 Love Languages :

Mr Right...Are You Him?

Almost every girl out there on this wild quest for love seem to be looking for one thing:Mr Right. Although we all have  our different versions of him, Mr Right is "the one" who complements us best.

For me, he is an attractive, funny, non conformist,spirtual, entrepreneur, witty, leader, honest, humble,successful, passionate,visionary,generous, responsible, good-with-money,motivated, opened minded, fun man (the ones in bold are non-negotiables). Whew, thats a lot...and definetly not all. But none the less, this is MY Mr Right basics. If you dont have a list of traits you want in your future man, I suggest you make a list, dont go all Chile from TLC on me though, be reasonable, this is just a guide to show you what you value as important in a man, not something to obsess over. I digress.

Got your list? Good. There's good news & there's bad news. The good news is this: HE EXCISTS!!!! That man is out there someone, he may not be perfectly packaged or you may not meet him the way you thought you would, and he will have the traits but will also have his fair share of flaws, BUT he is out there.

The bad news? Well lets take a look at that list you have of what you want in a man. Now, I want you to check off all the traits in HIM that you have in YOU. Chances are, you have a few or a lot of things unchecked like I did. Which means that we (me and everyone else with the unchecked traits) have some work to do...on ourselves.

I firmly believe it's unfair to ask of others things in which you dont possess yourself. So, I encourage everyone who made the lists, and honestly checked them off to look at all the traits or items you dont possess and work on those things until you feel you've mastered them.

I for one have entrepreneur as someone I'd like my Mr Right to be...yet Im not an entrepreneur. So what I will do now is focus on how I can be more business oriented even if I never start a business (which I do plan on), I'll have aquired enough knowledge about entrepreneurship to be an asset when I meet my Mr Right. Get it?

Who's bold enough to post their lists...as well as unchecked traits?

I'd love to hear your feedback, comment below! (and share this post while you're at it)