Talking...Let's Talk About What That Means.

"Talking to" someone of the opposite sex has been a phenomon since waaaay before you and I  were ever thought of, and yet very few people stop to think about what it really means.

I've created my own description for the "talking" guidelines as the following: Talking is a few degrees less than dating. It is the time you talk to/see a person of interest consistently in hopes of dating. It is sort of like a testing phase and should not involve serious feelings or drastic actions. During this time, you're learning about the other person, but should keep in mind that most people are on their best behavior in the beginning stages. This is the lightest phase of a relationship, so it's the perfect time to head for the hills if any cautionary signs pop up.

It is very important not to confuse "talking" with "dating" or "relationship", although I might add that it seems the older we get, the more dating we do initally instead of talking.

Talking VS Dating

TALKING

1. *You speak almost everyday and text often
2. *You go out occasionally, usually nothing fancy
3. *You hang in and do chill stuff like cook or watch t.v together
4. *You may follow on twitter or instagram but mainly out of curiousity and never actually tweet each other.
5. *You dont talk about sensitive subjects or heavy matters
6. *You dont meet family and friends
7. *If you do meet friends or outsiders, you are introduced as a friend

DATING

1. *You speak/text everyday...he is usually sending a goodmorning text
2. *You go out often, some dates fancy, some casual
3. *You hang in and do chill stuff like cook or watch t.v...kissing or more may be involved (for the fast ones.lol)
4. *You follow on social networking sites to stalk and subtweet...when you start seeing the "him" tweets
5. *You begin to open up about yourself, past, future, family etc...topics with substance
6. *You meet friends and maybe some family
7. *You are introduced as "my date"

Did that clear it up for you?  Remember, neither one is mutually exclusive until you guys agree to monogomy...Im an advocate keeping options open while dating :)

I like the talking phase, but if you stay there for too long and dont build TRUST me, it wont work.

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